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[NOTE from Barb: Iâm a little obsessed with defining genres, so I started doing short descriptions of various ways to describe different genres, usually accompanied by an aggressively bad example. (The idea is that there will eventually be a books-worth of them, so brace yourselves!) Hereâs a Valentineâs Day themed version from several years back. âBarb]
The Ancient Greeks’ Recipe for Love
As a book reviewer, one of the things that never ceases to amaze me is how often writers fail to understand the genres they are claiming. In honor of Valentineâs Day, Iâd like to examine the ancient Greeksâ recipe for the four main types of love.

1. Where the wifi connects automaticallyâSTORGE: love of those we consider to be family. [The Sea Beast, Netflix]

2. Canât post your bail because they were arrested with youâPHILIA: love for friends. [Amy Poehler, Parks and Rec]

3. I just want to make you happyâŠand maybe nakedâEROS: romantic love. [Rogers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella]
4. The person who has seen you at your worst, thinks of you at your best, and is perfectly willing to tell you which is which (i.e. your hairdresser, sibling, and/or Mom): AGAPE: unconditional love through self-sacrifice.
These love ingredients (or lack thereof) define the basic relationship arcs of every story from the bible to Shakespeare to your annual new yearâs resolutions. But as any gourmet knows, a recipe is only a starting place. Even the best ingredients need an artistâs touch to combine them, season, and present them to discerning epicures. How? Letâs take a look at a sample which should probably not be coming to a bestseller list soon.

ALONG CAME LEMUEL
A squishy romance by Milly Boone-Harlequin (With Assistance From The PLOT-GENERATOR)
Hepzibah Heartburn is a liberal feminist kickass cupcake decorator at UEMSTC&BS. (Upper Eastern Mississippi State Trailer Park Cupcake and Bait Shop). Her life is going nowhere until she meets Lemuel Slowburn, a chinless asthmatic with a passion for Wordle.
Of course, Hepzibah takes an instant dislike to Lemuelânot so much because he has the intelligence of carpet lint (some of her best friends have trouble speaking in full sentences or spelling the word âqueueâ) but because word around town is that heâs a closet conservative who has been known to wear designer loafers with tassels, and perhaps even the occasional sweater vest.
However, when an internet troll tries to take down Hepzibahâs cupcake business by filling in thousands of fundamentalist religious websites with her business URL and the comment that she would like to hear more of their good news, Lemuel springs to her rescue. Hepzibah begins to notice that while Lemuel outwardly appears to be too conservative to fart unless itâs a bullet point on the Republican Party platform, he listens to vintage Grateful Dead in his car and once even bought a Black Lives Matter t-shirt. After she follows him into a bodega where he orders in Spanish, Hepzibah realizes sheâs falling for him.
But Lemuel decides not to expose Hepzibah to the dangers of his job (Freelance Toilet Wrangler, on-call 24/7 to capture snakes, alligators, and supernatural creatures that come up through bathroom plumbing), so he friend-zones her. Despondent, Hepzibah sits in the dark sucking down Ben & Jerryâs ice-cream (Karamel Sutra Core) directly from the carton and watching live-cam streaming of large animals in labor. When she misses that weekendâs Women’s March in order to watch April the Giraffe gestating, her two best friends (an actual fluffy lamb and a quirky gay yoga pants designer) stage an intervention and arrange a blind date with playboy cotton-candy maker Ezekiel Hellburn.
After seeing a bouquet of multi-colored cotton candy being delivered to Hepzibahâs house, Lemuel realizes he has to act fast. Donning his hand-knitted pink kitty hat from the Womens March, Lemuel shows Hepzibah proof that Ezekiel not only takes phone calls during theater performances, but also is the official cotton-candy supplier to the National Rifle Association. But is it too little too late? Will Hepzibah and Lemuel ever find the squishy love they deserve?
FOUR LOVES GENRE NOTES:
- If Lemuel and Hepzibah meet every day at the bodega, and over their cemitas and tortas they talk about the difficulties of getting gluten-free responsibly-harvested organic frosting dye or the best ways to humanely trap a toilet poltergeist, they have PHILIA.
- If Hepzibahâs BFFs (actual baby lamb, and yoga pants designer) are her family-of-choice, the ones who remember her birthday with awkward âsurpriseâ parties and even-more-awkward blind dates, they have STORGE.
- If Hepzibah fantasizes about snogging Lemuelâs chinless erâŠchin while lying naked atop their phones with that day’s Wordle, thatâs just lust (however disturbing). But if she wants to give up YouTube animal birth videos in favor of gestating mini-Lemuels and growing old together, thatâs EROS (but still disturbing actually).
- If Lemuel doesnât hesitate to stand between the NRA rally and Hepzibahâs Equal Rights March, armed only with his snake-capture loop and a few (humanely trapped) poltergeists, they have AGAPE (and possibly, an issue with PETSâPeople for Ethical Treatment of Supernaturals).
What’s your favorite love flavor?
All of them together?
Or maybe all you need is one?
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Thanks so much for the reblog Michael!
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Happy Valentine’s Day, Barb! xx Michael
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đđ to you too!
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Iâd like to read that book. đ Happy Valentineâs. đ
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Bad book ideas… I’ve got a million of them. Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Here’s to love, and definitely to loving your blog posts! Happy Valentine’s Day, Barb.
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Happy Valentineâs Day to you and love and your brilliant take on things
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Harlequin Milly Boone? Consider me sold.
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This is sooo scrumptious, I have to go back and savour it all again (and again!). Please give me the links for Along Came Lemuel and the Karamel Sutra Core. đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
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