I’ve always said that our relationship was based on the two purest human feelings: pity and hunger. Back in our college days, I was cooking a traditional Thanksgiving dinner at our apartment when my roommate Max dragged in a couple of grad students she knew would be alone on the holiday. One was a tall thin guy who didn’t say two words to me but ate everything that came within reach. We were married two years later.
So how about you? What’s your love story?
For inspiration, check out this fabulous one from Elyse at FiftyFourAndAHalf.
(And for the record, here’s a repost of how mine has turned out so far!)
Once Upon a Time
Chapter 1
A girl met her prince. He was tall, dark, and handsome. (Actually, he was a Republican. But he was definitely tall.) They fell in love, and got married. *
Chapter 2.
He brought her to his castle and they lived happily ever after.**
The End***
*Okay, so thirty-five+ years of life happened between Chapters 1 and 2. They included:
MONTHS |
SPENT: |
36 |
Pregnant |
96 |
Changing diapers |
192 |
Getting offspring into or out of carseats |
180 |
Driving to Sunday School |
48 bazillion |
Driving practice with teenage drivers. (Note: this item is multiplied by Parental-Terror units, which include the number of times your life flashes before your eyes…) |
134 down, 10 to go |
College tuition |
360 |
Thinking up something to have for dinner |
0 |
Playing with my grandchildren (but I’m not bitter. Much…) |
**In the romance-writing biz, we aim for the HEA (Happily-Ever-After), or—if we’re milking it for series potential—at least a HFN (Happily-for-Now. No, it doesn’t mean Hell-eFfing-No…).
I was thinking about the HFN today when I went to a friend’s birthday lunch. She’s 93, so I asked her to tell me about her favorite birthday ever. “Considering the alternative,” she told me, “Every birthday I make it to is the best one ever.” So of course, I asked for her secret to a long happy ever after. She answered right away. “Have a lot of friends who remember you even when you can’t remember their names.” A few minutes later she added, “Don’t say no to sweets.” And finally, “Don’t look back.”
***UPDATES: So it turns out that my Chapter 2 was a HFN, and we’re about to start on we’re well into Chapter 3:
- We’ve downsized from the castle to the Hobbit House. Hint: What do Scots wear under their kilts? I now know!
- But even better, we are fixing up an old cottage on an island off the coast of Scotland. As soon as we have a few things in place (like doors on the bathrooms, a kitchen, and heat) you’re all welcome to visit.
- The College Tuition entry can now move to 144 down, 0 to go.
- And the best update of Chapter 3? I can change that last line of the chart to read: MONTHS: 14 SPENT: Playing with my grandchild
Grandparenting rocks. Turns out that Chapter 3 is the real HEA!
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Sorry about the delay in getting back to you. And thank you so SO much for the very flattering reblog!
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I love it! Grandchildren certainly are the best!! We just celebrated 40 years of HEA. So far so good. Blogged about it here. https://darlenefoster.wordpress.com/2017/02/12/york-revisted/
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I’m so sorry to be late in getting back to you. And I’m particularly thrilled with the reblog. Thank you so much, and congrats on that 40-year HEA! Woohoo!
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Now, there’s Romance: ‘he didn’t say two words but ate everything that came within reach’
Beautiful, Barb!!
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Thanks June! I can always count on romance writers to get to the heart of a good love story. (Or at least the stomach…)
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Reblogged this on June Kearns.
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Thank you so much! I’m sorry for the delay in responding, but I am very grateful for the reblog.
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“Don’t look back” is the best advice ever given! From a 93 year old, I’m listening!
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Thanks, Claire. She really was one of the most remarkable people I’ve ever met.
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Love the way u narrated the first day u two met and especially the way the sentence ended.
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Thank you so much! (I’m still feeding him after all these years.)
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So I think the rule is you have to feed the beast. Am I right?!?
I’m looking forward to the third chapter myself. My son doesn’t realize it yet, however. And with no girlfriend at the moment, umm, neither does my future daughter-in-law!
Thanks for the shoutout!
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No, seriously–Chapter 3 is the BEST! (Although it’s probably better to just let your son figure these things out on his own. My visiting daughters started greeting me at the airport with statements that if I mentioned the G-word (grandchildren) they would turn around and reboard their plane.
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cool; cute; cosy; continuing…
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That’s the most terse you’ve ever been. But a great love story perhaps needs few words when you’re the one living it.
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You know me too well
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What a fun post! I particularly enjoyed the advice from your 93-year-old friend. (I think I may be set for a long life because I’ve never been able to remember names.)
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I’m name-challenged too. A great challenge when your career is human resources, but a source of longevity comfort.
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Something I noticed when the five of us got together in Sheffield: you four have all been married to the same person since you were young. It’s really unusual to find this in a group of people, these days; all my friends are like me, and have been married and divorced and married and divorced and in and out of all sorts of ill advised, short and sweet or short and not so sweet relationships, interspersed with periods of singledom. I don’t know ANYONE apart from you four who have been happily married to the same man from a very young age, I don’t think. It’s good to know it’s still possible!!!!
Aside from anything else, you get better houses if you stick together. Because you can build and improve and buy better. Instead of losing them in divorces. (I like ‘360 months spent thinking of something to have for dinner’ best, btw!!!)
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Our long relationships might be epic love stories, or might just be our lack of imagination. I’ve always wondered…
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“Parental-terror units!” If only we could cash those in! 😜
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I know! I’d be so rich.
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well said))
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What a wonderful post, Barb! So you left your castle? Never thought that would happen! And the cottage on the island, forever home or holiday home? Congrats on the grandchild, too. Xxx
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Thanks, Ali. Actually, I think EVERY house is the forever one. Until the next one..
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Well Said
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I love the list and I hated thinking up what’s for dinner. Even when it’s only me. Sometimes it’s popcorn. 😉 I love your daughter’s comments coming off the plane. You always make me laugh. Really!
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