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“People say go big or go home, as if going home is a bad thing? Like hell yeah I wanna go home, and I’m gonna take a nap when I get there.” — Josh Ostrovsky
[Seattle ferry, image credit katdavis733 for Pixabay]
Feels like home?
As an expat, I’m frequently asked how often I get “home”. While I’ve been back in Seattle these past weeks, I’ve been thinking about home, and where it might be. Some thoughts (mostly suitable for couch pillow embroidery):
Home is—
- “…the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. – Robert Frost
- “When you’re safe at home you wish you were having an adventure; when you’re having an adventure you wish you were safe at home.” – Thorton Wilder
- “…where one starts from.” – T. S. Eliot
- “…where somebody notices when you are no longer there.”– Aleksandar Hemon
- “To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.” – Chinese Proverb
- where there’s no place like. (ruby slippers optional)
- where the heart is.
James Baldwin said “You don’t have a home until you leave it and then, when you have left it, you never can go back.” But I went back. Getting to Seattle, Washington from the Isle of Arran in Scotland was incredibly difficult [here] but I made it.
Only… this time America is different. Or maybe I am. I can’t understand the commercials. I like them the way I like but often don’t get art films and Booker prize books. But I have no idea what they’re advertising and a gut feeling that whatever it is, I don’t want it.
In my memories, America is a place where everyday overabundance means you don’t so much purchase something as curate your buying decisions. But on this trip, stores have weirdly empty aisles that seem more like Soviet-era Russia than the American Dream.

Kraft, manufacturers of Philadelphia brand cream cheese, is offering $20 NOT to bake holiday cheesecake during the current shmear shortage.

A store I love so much I threatened to name my next child Target—I think everyone was grateful we stopped at four kids—now has whole aisles that look like shops from Soviet-era Russia.
You only have to remember your correct barnyard animal to find your way back to your car.
But in all the best ways, Seattle is still the place I go back to that always lets me in.
So what is home?
It’s where your wifi automatically connects, and the best hairdresser on the planet will always squeeze you in for an emergency haircut.

Of COURSE it’s Seattle. Antonio (owner of Coco & Co.) believes in offering a full-service cut even to clients he now sees once a decade. This includes a special treatment: Angelo, effortlessly chic in overalls, curled up for a cuddle.
But where the heart is?
My heart (and hopefully, my luggage this time) is heading home to Scotland, to the Isle of Arran, for Christmas. Wish me luck!
Wishing each of you ends up in the home your heart chooses this holiday season!
Merry Christmas, Barb! Wishing you luck getting back to Scotland and all the best in 2022.
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I’m still in Seattle, still struggling with the mountain of details that make up travel these days. (Translation: my next blog post is practically writing itself!) Best wishes to you for a wonderful holiday and peaceful new year.
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The other day hubby said, “This is just like at home.” I said, “Which one?” When you move around you have lots of homes. Have a safe and successful trip back to your lovely home in Scotland.
PS The best haircut I have ever had, I got in Seattle. I didn´t get a puppy to cuddle though.
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That pup is Antonio’s secret weapon. You just never want to leave! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas in your heart’s home, and best wishes for the new year.
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A home is not a house with windows and doors. A house it’s not a home with kitchens and floors. A home is where your heart rests gently no matter where you are.
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I hope you’re in that home, your heart resting gently, and all is merry and bright!
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Merry Christmas to you my friend and all of those you care about.
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Reblogged this on OPENED HERE >> https:/BOOKS.ESLARN-NET.DE.
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Thanks so much for the reblog! Wishing you a merry holiday and a peaceful new year.
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Merry Christmas to you and yours, Barb! Have a nice trip, and dont wake all the grumpy fairies on the island. 😉 xx Michael
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The weather is NOT looking promising for ferry sailings. But if by some Christmas miracle I do make it back, I’m sure my celebration will wake every one of those fairies!
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We were booked to visit family at their home (ours is in Spain as it’s the only house we have and can afford) – but we got Covid. So all cancelled. Scotland clamping down even more than UK which doesn’t seem to notice there is a bug around.
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Oh no! I’m so very sorry to hear that. How are you doing?
I’m still jumping through travel hoops, so it’s not clear whether I’ll make it back either. I hope you’re recovering, and that you have a joyful Christmas and peaceful 2022.🎅🎄
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Getting there, but not right yet. This bug really is something else – and we can get it several times! Hope you get home in time for Xmas and all goes smoothly.
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By Robert Frost’s definition, I was home in France even before I first visited. There have never been any regrets and more than fourteen years later, I love it all the more. Along the way, there have been no doubts and the natives have been ever so kind from the beginning.
Next time say hello to Seattle for me. I’ve spent quite a bit of time there over the years and still have family there.
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Seattle only gets more Seattle-ish, but since I’m still here (yes, that next blog post is practically writing itself) I’ll give it a shoutout for you. I’m so glad you’re in your heart’s home, and wish you all the joy of the holiday and a peaceful new year.
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As a world class gypsy, I had a sign in my house that said “home isn’t a place, it’s a feeling.” While we are staying at motels, when going out, I always say something like lets take this home with us, meaning to the hotel. It’s wherever I hang my hat. I’ve got address # 36 all leased and waiting for me. Love all the pillow quotes. I wish I knew where home was. I’ve been looking for all month long.
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I admire your ability to see home where your hat is. So much more practical than all that heart nonsense! Wishing you a merry and bright stay in #36!
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Merry Christmas, Barb! Home is where the heart is, and I knew quite a while ago that your heart was in Scotland. The US is changing – luckily not so much where we live (no empty shelves and lots of open restaurants and stores – but in other places) Hoping we can cling on and get used to our new house! My heart is still in the old one!.
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You’re so right that my heart belongs in Scotland now. But there are bits of it scattered around, especially in Seattle. Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and peaceful new year where your heart calls home!
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That was wonderful Barb. Thank You!
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Thank you so much. And I hope you have a wonderful holiday season and all the best in the new year.
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Home is where you are, have a safe trip and happy Christmas
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Thanks so much Beth! (But if things go perfectly, where’s that next blog post going to come from?)
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I so agree – too easy then, no material )
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Speedy and safe travels. Hope you make it back in time for Christmas.
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Thanks Cathy! I’m not sure the ferries will be sailing to the island given the weather, but it will be enough to be with the Hub. Fingers-crossed! Meanwhile, I’m wishing you a merry, bright Christmas and the happiest of new years.
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Thanks so much, Barb
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Good luck getting home. It looks like we’ll be driving home in some nasty weather. Ugh. Wish me luck too! Happy Holidays!
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Please drive very carefully. I’ll put lots of pink light around you. And best wishes for a wonderful holiday season and all the good things in the new year.
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Safe travels. Merry Christmas Barb! 🎅🎄👼🛐
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Thank you. 🙂 I am at home. Wishing you a safe (and speedy journey). Happy holidays and all the best for 2022.
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Welcome home – and a good journey home. OK, so bad journeys make good posts, but at this time of year you deserve some smooth sailing. Happy Christmas!
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Merry Christmas! and Happy New Year
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I’m not sure anyplace feels like home these days.
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Ok, the overalls are the cutest things ever!!! Merry Christmas!
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Seattle is the home I go back to, partly because I live there!
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Thank you for giving me big smiles!! And, safe travels!
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Home for me was always where my love and my family was….. WAS! I’m married 2nd time round for nearly 24 yrs now and apart from the last 2yrs (tks pandemic!) we’ve hardly ever lived together at any place. We came, arrived and hubby ‘tout de suite’ worked abroad. I terribly missed my family, mum is still alive – but then I realised that – when we moved to another country – I very much missed the friends I made in that previous country. Can’t win really.
Now we had the great fortune to return to our home country Switzerland 10 days before the great lockdown in March 2020 and since then Hero Husband and I are almost all the time together 24/7 and believe me, that’s not easy either… but still so much better than not seeing each other for long stretches. And mum appreciates her daughter’s visits very much.
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