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#reclaimthestreets, Amanda Taub, curfew, Curfew for men, London, Sabina Nessa, safety, Sarah Everard, violence against women, women
Sadly, this isn’t a new story. Just a new name.

Sabina Nessa, a young woman taking a five-minute walk to join a friend at a pub in London, was found murdered this week.
Calling on women to stop being victims has never worked.
Calling on men to stop allowing, ignoring, or committing violence isn’t working either.
TIME FOR A NEW APPROACH?
The story we SHOULD have read:
LONDON: In the wake of the disappearance and murder of Sarah Everard Sabina Nessa, police in London have been going door-to-door urging all men to stay inside after dark and remain vigilant. In the latest MET briefing, Superintendent Daryl Stiff-Upper issued a statement:
“Clearly, our top priority is safety of our citizens. We all accept that men cannot be expected to control themselves at the provocation provided by women walking, breathing, or existing in their sight. Therefore, starting immediately, we urge all men to take the following basic precautions.
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- When at all possible, do not go out after dark.
- If you are working late or going out is unavoidable, text your partner and/or mother before you leave, and when you arrive home safely. Be sure to include your destination and current location.
- If going out is unavoidable, make sure you are in a group with others to discourage inappropriate or criminal activity.
- Stick to well-lighted areas with plenty of camera coverage.
- Further, you should think about careers where you will not need to be in public, and where you won’t have to risk the danger of travel or potentially dangerous exposure to the opposite sex. This is, obviously, for your own safety.
- Under no circumstances should you take a walk at night, answer your door, or make eye contact with a member of the opposite sex.
- Your clothing should be extremely conservative as you don’t want to appear to be “looking for it”.
- Obviously, you’ll want to limit social activities involving alcohol, because anything that happens to you under the influence is your own fault.
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In the light of continued protests at Clapham Junction, we feel these proposed actions are urgently needed for the safety of all.”
In other news, Members of Parliament including Baroness Jones are considering a curfew on men after 6 PM. Angry fathers are calling for “Make the Streets Safe From For Our Sons” marches. Safety first.
The bargain we NEVER made.
For more on women paying for a bargain we never made, please see Amanda Taub’s Interpreter column for the New York Times:**
The “Reclaim These Streets” movement in Britain asks why the police demand sacrifices of women rather than forcing men to change to end violence.
**Well, yes. My daughter, of whom I could not be more proud.
I weep. I weep because of the stupidity, the ignorance, the callousness of too many in our society. I weep because men are allowed to “be men”, because women are too often objects, “less than”. Because as a society, we accept violence and we appear to condone violence because we do nothing to end it. Someone cut you off in traffic? Shoot them. Kids in school tease you, treat you poorly? Take a gun and shoot them. But restrict our gun ownership? OMG! That’s an infringement of our freedom! Require we get a vaccine? OMG! That’s an infringement of our freedom.
I digressed here – but in my mind, all of these things come from the same convoluted thinking and acceptance – that’s “just how it is”.
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Somehow we haven’t gotten past “All animals are equal but some are more equal than others…” (George Orwell’s Animal Farm, 1945—where, BTW, no female pigs were mentioned.)
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Wow, you are gifted at molding powerful thoughts into powerful words.
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Thank you, Geoff. But I think others said it sooner and better. The important thing it that it needs to be said MORE.
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And here in the US, we are listening to news coverage of another young woman’s death at the (alleged but extremely likely) hands of her partner. When does the violence against women stop??? My heart aches for women all over the world who live in fear because predatory men’s behavior has become normalized and expected. Excellent post, now heading over to read your daughter’s column.
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Her latest newsletter talks about fears for women under the Taliban. Very, very sad stuff.
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Sad, and horrifying. I was not able to read her column because of NYT restrictions. I might be able to access it in October. I’m not a NYT subscriber, so I have a limited number of articles I’m allowed to read each month and apparently I’m at my limit for September.
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I forgot about the paywall for the New York Times. But you can sign up for The Interpreter newsletter which Amanda and her writing partner Max each write on alternating Fridays. It’s also from the Times, but is free at https://www.nytimes.com/newsletters/the-interpreter .
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Thank you!
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Wow, it sounds so ludicrous when the shoe is put on the other foot. Yes, why should women always have to be the ones who restrict their lives, because of some men’s horrible behavior?
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And yet, women of our generation automatically stayed on our side of that bargain.
I’d like to think and hope that our daughters and granddaughters at least are pushing back and demanding change.
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I know my niece is pushing back. I wasn’t able to read your daughter’s article either, because I’m not a NYT subscriber. But I’m sure it is brilliant.
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I forgot about the paywall for the New York Times. But you can sign up for The Interpreter newsletter which Amanda and her writing partner Max each write on alternating Fridays. It’s also from the Times, but is free at https://www.nytimes.com/newsletters/the-interpreter .
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My heart and my mind hurt because these words are so true. We should not have to live in fear. We should not.
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Amen!
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Well said! Men staying home? That’s EXACTLY what should happen!
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It’s amazing how a little gender-flip constitutes parody and even comedy. It’s just so wrong in so many ways…
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I keep wondering if there’s any hope for us anymore. Every time I think I see a spot of brightness at the end of the tunnel, it turns out to be the headlights of an oncoming train.
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I’m finding my spot of brightness when I look at the amazing women following us. We let them down, left them a world where so much is still an appalling mess. But they have an incredible vision and capacity for change. I really hope they’re the ones who make it out of the tunnel.
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This is happening everywhere. A curfew for men is a brilliant idea.
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Hell, yeah! (Now if we could just get them to give birth…)
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That would be great!
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There was a great Tracy Ullman skit : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=51-hepLP8J4
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I’ve always LOVED that one! “Ask him what font he’s been using. If it’s something coquettish like Helvetica, then he’s probably brought it on himself.”
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Absolutely horrific
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Brilliant, Barb. I can’t read your daughter’s piece because I don’t subscribe to the NYT. It’s kind of missing a trick there because most of us who were able to read the article would share, providing more publicity for the paper.
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I forgot about the paywall for the New York Times. Sadly, I think they’re more concerned about payment than publicity.
But you can sign up for The Interpreter newsletter which Amanda and her writing partner Max each write on alternating Fridays. It’s also from the Times, but is free at https://www.nytimes.com/newsletters/the-interpreter .
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Great, I’ll do that.
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Reblogged this on Thorne Moore.
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I thought you would appreciate this :
https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2021/9/20/2053348/-That-one-time-that-liberals-convinced-conservatives-to-kill-themselves-by-begging-them-to-live
Evidently, the conservatives believe that BIDEN and PELOSI are pushing the vaccines as a form of REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY. They ‘know’ that REPUBLICANS will do the OPPOSITE of what they say and NOT get vaccinated. Therefore, BIDEN and Pelosi are responsible for the deaths of all those unvaccinated republicans !!!
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Ah yes…The global pandemic is actually a liberal government conspiracy—trick conservatives into refusing vaccination, filling up the hospitals, and dying—designed to flip close elections.
They left out the zombies though. I really thought the apocalyptic dystopia would have zombies…
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Since the beginning of man, this has not changed. That says it all. This makes my heart hurt. There is just too much violence against women…everywhere.
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