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Over the pandemic and lockdown, many of us lost family and friends, a loss made even more difficult when we weren’t able to say goodbye.
Mary Smith, talking about her lockdown experience, quoted Diana Ross:
Reach out and touch
Somebody’s hand
Make this world a better place
If you can.
Those words have never felt so meaningful and so poignant. It’s what we all need right now. The touch of someone’s hand on ours would make the world seem a better place. Such a simple gesture and yet, many weeks ago, we allowed ourselves to be frightened into excising a huge part of our humanity, to keep ourselves and others safe. My heart breaks seeing young children file into their classrooms, keeping the regulation six feet apart, learning they mustn’t touch or hug each other. Learning to be fearful of their friends and their teachers. This, at a time when we are most in need of the comfort the touch of another human brings – a hand on our arm, a quick hug, a pat on the back, a hand reaching out to touch our hand.
—Mary Smith (Writedown: Lockdown in the Galloway Glens at the Time of Covid , Margaret Elphinstone et al (pp. 162-164). Kindle Edition.
In honor of her birthday and her memory, I’d like to challenge all who lost someone over the past three years to take Mary’s advice. Reach out and touch somebody’s hand; make this world a better place.
Miss you Mary! You touched so many, and left this world a better place.
(If you haven’t had a chance to read Mary’s incredible Afghan adventure serial diary, give yourself a treat and start with this one, take a look at some of her funny and heart-tugging books here, her blog series My Dad is a Goldfish about caring for her father with dementia, or her ongoing cancer journey.)
I first became aware of Mary when I came across her hair-raising, moving and dryly hilarious accounts of her time in Afghanistan. I admired and respected her and I’m surprised how much I still miss her despite only having known her for a couple of years. I’m not surprised by the admonition to reach out and touch somebody’s hand – her bravery was matched by her compassion. Lovely to see her birthday remembered here.
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I absolutely loved her stories, her joy in the people she met and loved there, and her hilarious sense of humor about what they went through together.
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Reblogged this on NEW BLOG HERE >> https:/BOOKS.ESLARN-NET.DE.
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Thanks so much for the reblog Michael!
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With a great pleasure, Barb! Thanks again for the remembrance! xx Michael
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Thanks for remembering on a very interesting, and so good person. I got knowledge of her by reading about her experiences in Afghanistan. I was thrilled and deeply impressed by her courage. Especially when she was battling cancer. It was so sad to hear that the forecasts suddenly didn’t add up. May she rest in peace, and i am sure she always will be amongst us. xx Michael
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Mary’s ability to see the humor and humanity even in the toughest situation—whether in Afghanistan, or nursing her father through dementia and illness, or facing her own cancer diagnosis—remains an inspiration. She’s still one of my best teachers!
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I fully agree with you, and also miss her so much.
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I was just thinking of her today. ❤
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I’m sure we’re part of a very large group!
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She sounds like she was an amazing person. I will follow the advice today-
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thanks beth!
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Beautiful tribute to a friend who will know you care across this wide universe. With both kids down with covid, I’m not touching hands as much as trying to touch hearts. That’s still plausible. Small kindnesses in such troubled times.
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It’s the love that’s important—not where you touch!
(Best wishes for everyone’s safe recovery.)
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And so I’m taken straight back to a room in a hotel in Chelsea and a smile and a touch and a light Scottish accent, asking, ‘And you must be Geoff’ as she scanned my face with the sort of gentle concern and slight disbelief that anyone could have made the frankly bizarre choice to dye themselves pink as a way of being recognised, as if wearing a carnation would have done just as well and less likely to terrify the geraniums. Such a class act, such understated chutzpah, such an aura that spoke to a character you just wanted to get to know better and hope one day you could call friend. Yes, Barb, what a gal and what a delightful and apposite tribute. Thank you, I will.
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In a totally Mary way, she’s still working to pull us all together!
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Mary Smith was one of the bravest people I have ever met. So sad to lose her, but will always be remembered…
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You’re absolutely right. Bless you!
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Well said, she was a lovely lady.
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Thanks Rosie. We all miss her.
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Beautiful tribute.
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Thank you so much!
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Hi Barb I cant find anything about Mary on line. Help please.
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I can’t believe I left out links to Mary’s work. I’ve added them to the bottom of the post above. Thanks so much for pointing this out to me.
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What a perfect tribute to our dear friend Mary. I think about her often and am so glad I was able to meet her in person. I’ll forever cherish the time spent with her. I will be sure to reach out and touch someone in her memory. ❤
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Thanks, Darlene!
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I exchanged some emails with Mary, but I was also conversing daily with Sue. Tought times all around. Sue also kept her sense of humor right to the end. Both incredibly strong women and role models for us!
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And both are so very much missed!
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Absolutely!
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Reblogged this on Darlene Foster's Blog and commented:
A wonderful tribute to a good blogging friend we lost last year, in honour of her birthday. She is so missed but lives on her published books.
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Thanks so much for sharing Darlene!
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Thank you for posting this birthday tribute to Mary. I still feel her loss.
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Thank you Liz. Mary touched so many!
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You’re welcome, Barb.
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Awesome tribute Barb, thanks for sharing!!
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Thanks Kirt!
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Hi Barb, thank you for this lovely tribute to Mary Smith. I saw her birthday come up on Facebook and it was very sad for me. I had the privilege of meeting Mary in Dumfries in 2019 and I am so glad I did. An unforgettable person.
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Mary really did touch so many lives, and we’re all so lucky for that.
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Thank you, Barb. I do miss Mary and your tribute means a lot.
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Mary had an amazing gift for touching lives. So many of us miss her!
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That is certain. She even got me to complain to the city in Scotland about the wind generation machines. I still get notices of town meetings. (obviously I haven’t made one yet.)
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It is lovely to see Mary remembered here… I loved the stories of her life in Afghanistan but more recently while she herself was in the throes of learning to live with her cancer she took time to help me cope with both my daughter’s cancer her advice and empathy were invaluable that she cared about others shone through in every thought she had…Fondly remembered x
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She reached out and touched so many hands and hearts.
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Absolutely beautiful, Barb.
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A lovely tribute to Mary on her birthday. Barb. Thank you.
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Such a lovely tribute to Mary, who I had the pleasure to meet in person on more than one occasion. I’m just back from a holiday in Scotland and my first thought upon arriving was Mary. She really touched our lives in a wonderful way, Barb. x
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