Everything changes. Except for what doesn’t…
For the better part of the past decade, my two old friends and I have met up in India every January to explore a different part of an endless country. That all stopped with the pandemic three years ago. To our surprise, we’ve all made it through so far, so as always we had to push our luck and schedule our usual January trip.
As we were planning this year’s trip, I wondered what changes we would find in India, both over the three Covid years of our absence, and over the past decade of our India travels.
To the absolute and utter amazement of just about everyone who knows us, the three of us arrived at the Chennai airport from the US, the UK, and Gujarat at approximately the same time. We piled into our pre-booked taxi and as I listened to the cacophony of honking — in India, vehicle horns are a form of radar sounded at all times to let other drivers know of your presence on the road — I thought nothing had changed.
I was completely wrong. And totally right. The India I first experienced all those years ago was the old India. Roadsides were public urinals, cows wandered freely along streets and highways, and litter was everywhere. The friendly people we met went out of their way to help us, the food was fabulous, and ancient marvels waiting around every corner amazed us. (Sure the US has some Viking graves, cave paintings, and native peoples whose traditions extend for centuries earlier. But for the most part, we Americans rarely encounter anything older than a century.)

At an ancient temple site I overheard a father telling his child, “It’s more than a thousand years old.” The child was skeptical. “Is that more than nineteen?” [All images unless otherwise credited: ©Janine Smith & Jayalakshmy Ayyer]
But in my annual trips over the past decade, the India I’ve visited has been flinging itself into the future of technical innovation. It has also been working to preserve a history that includes some of the world’s oldest known civilizations.
I began to catalog the changes.
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Taxi anyone?

On past trips, we got all our directions via queries shouted by our driver to passersby. Now, GPS is our guide and Google is our guru. In previous years, we loved experimenting with a variety of auto-rickshaws, taxis, private drivers, etc. But in the two years BC (Before Covid), an Uber-type app swept across India. It sends your Ola driver almost instantly, and you could travel in air-conditioned style, complete with touch screens offering maps, news, entertainment, etc. And this year, our auto rickshaw driver held out his cellphone with a QR code, Jaya aimed her phone at it, and the fare was paid. When he saw me staring, the driver smiled and said, “Digital India.”
2. When you gotta go…
On earlier trips, significant time was allotted to the never-ending search for western toilets, and that even rarer Holy Grail: toilet paper. (Much, MUCH clandestine paper napkin liberation occurred at each of our restaurant stops.) But now almost every regular restaurant boasts facilities and even TP.
And there were also things I expected to see but didn’t. Not only were there no cows on the freeway, but we didn’t see the usual lineup of men casually using the roadside as toilets, while the piles of plastic rubbish we’d come to expect along the roads had virtually disappeared as well.

Toilet door signs of the new India: Jaya explained how Indian government initiatives had built over thirty million toilets over the past few years, while others discouraged plastic use. (There are steep fines in some cities like Mumbai for even carrying a single-use plastic bag!)
3. The changes go even deeper.

Clean-up volunteers at India Gate, Delhi. A combination of financial and social incentives for a Clean India are changing the face of the country.
Another game-changer is the road system itself. Thanks to an epic road building program, there are freeways connecting most places.

And the many toll-gates—which had involved traffic snarls so permanent that little enterprise zones of beggars and vendors surrounded them—now consist of automatic gates that recognize the vehicles’ FasTag.

Roadside offerings regularly include Starbucks, Subway, Kentucky Fried Chicken, Baskin Robbins, and even McDonalds.
Health coverage and other benefits are tied to each person’s bank account (no minimum balance required, so everyone has one), with biometric thumbprint verification making ID cards unnecessary. Since almost everyone in India has a mobile phone, the joke is that beggars will soon accept charity via their QR code.
Of course, all of this digital economy means nobody wants to take actual cash from us foreigners without an Indian GooglePay account. We’ve had to take change in the form of small packages of candy and cookies (which almost never migrate to the bottom of your purse and get lost).
My favorite change?

Actually, this is the “After” shot—almost fully cured, although the lady who applied my mehndi (henna decorations) had to swirl around the little hole. (The “Before” shot was so potentially NSFW that nobody needs to see that. Bad enough that it was on my middle finger!)
India has been building a world-class medical system, which has fed a growing medical tourism industry. A few months before our trip, some rogue blood vessels on my middle finger decided to party, and their shenanigans produced a growth that looked a lot like a misplaced penis. While this could have led to all kinds of interesting personal developments, I really wasn’t up for seeing it waving as I tried to type. My doctor said it could be months before the NHS could remove it, so my choices boiled down to seeing a private doctor and paying a shedload of money for removal of my embarrassing mini-member, or going to a doctor while in India.
Jaya activated the Indian Mother Network, and found a relative: her husband’s cousin’s mother-in-law’s niece is what I think she said, but actually I lost track. With that close family tie, Jaya was told to just bring me in, no appointment needed. Doctor Shobana S, a well-known dermatologist dressed in a beautiful sari, greeted me serenely from behind her desk. A few minutes later, my unwanted mini-appendage was history. Cost for the procedure, including her consultation fee and prescriptions was less than dinner and a movie back home. For the rest of our trip, this became our new monetary unit. (As in, “How many fingers is that statue?” Or “That guide wanted half a finger, but Jaya bargained down to just a third.”)

My first stop as a medical tourist? The Radiant Skin Clinic—next door to a lovely small temple, across the street from a vegetable stand, and watched over by a serene goddess. Leave your shoes by the door, and in fifteen minutes Dr. Shobana will have you on your way to a great vacation.
Another thing that has changed in the past few years is the intensity of demand for pictures with foreigners. The polite and even shy requests for photos we encountered our first trip years ago have grown into insistence that borders on stalking.

At popular sites, we can barely get through the throngs taking their own pictures, almost always blocking out and frequently facing away from the treasures displayed. The poor guards’ whistles sound nonstop as they attempt to keep selfie-takers from hanging off or climbing the sculptures for a better view of themselves. But apparently the only thing that could distract them is the one missing piece for their digitized composition: women in western dress. “Selfie Madam?” is the incessant refrain following us across India.

“Selfie, Madam?” We’ve gotten used to this plea and have developed a rule: we only pose with children. But…there are a LOT of adorable children in India…
Of course, some things haven’t changed yet. In cities, beggars still knock on your car window and hold up their children. If you work up the nerve to cross a street in any major city, you still have to look in ALL the directions, watch out for cows, goats, and the occasional elephant, and be careful where you step. And unless you want to experience India’s world-class medical expertise up close and personal, you still shouldn’t drink the water.
The Biggest Change?
All in all, the biggest difference we saw was in ourselves. Our most common refrain was, “Has anyone seen my …?” “Thingie” became an all-purpose noun. The ever-kind Indians we met seemed even more solicitous. The stairs seemed higher, both the sun and the food a bit hotter, and our energy ran out long before either our day or our money did.
Has India changed?
If you want to see an India full of stunning historical and artistic treasures, you’re in luck. You’ll find toilets along the way, on-demand drivers to get you there, and familiar American fast food choices that can’t begin to compare with the delicious foods of India. You can get a world-class medical procedure at bargain prices, amazing food, and all the photos with total strangers you ever/never wanted. And most of all, you’ll get to spend time in a country full of the 1.4 billion nicest people you’ll ever meet. And that one mean one who got us kicked out of the temple that time…

Changing India? Well, a little girl from a small rural South Indian town can grow up, go to the States to attend the University of Chicago, and share a flat with two friends. Half a century later, they can all meet up in India every year, to travel, search for toilets, explore antiquities, eat parathas, and watch the future unfold. Only now they can pay for it all using their phones. If they can just remember where they put them…
How about you? What post-Covid changes have you seen?
Like you were in another world from the way you remember it. Very fair price to have your finger penis removed. I’ll it where to go if this happens to me
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It’s amazing to watch change on such a scale, while still seeing so much from thousands of years ago.
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and it really wasn’t all that long ago that you were there
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Thanks for this great post! Very interesting to read of the changes in India. I might go there for medical too since our system is now jawdroppingly slow after covid.
I have to remove one of the US’s ancient marvels, though. The only known Viking graves in N. America are in Canada, but you do have Canyon de Chelly, which is a lot older and more interesting than the Viking site. 🙂
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You’re right–I was claiming Canada’s Vikings but in a generic North America kind of way. And I’ve always wanted to visit Canyon de Chelly! Did you do the hike? How was it?
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Yes, we did the hike. We did several hikes in the park including the White House hike. It’s about 7 km (about 4 miles) round trip and I would describe it as moderate. We went in May before it became too hot. Was very interesting and I was intrigued to realise that there are language similarities with one of the First Nations in Northwest Territories. Well worth the visit. Cheers.
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Reblogged this on Judith Barrow and commented:
Isn’t this wonderful!!?
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Thanks so much for the reblog Judith!
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Wonderful thoughts, Barb. Wish I was there!
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After three years of missed travel care of Covid, it was SO fun to be with friends, exploring again. Not to mention those parathas!
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That sounds (and looks) like quite a trip! You have a very adventurous spirit.
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We’re not all THAT adventurous. The three of us stay in places we couldn’t have afforded back in our misspent youth…places with very very nice bathrooms!
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Nice bathrooms do make a difference!
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Lovely travelogue! I very much enjoyed the retelling of the ‘mini member’ you left behind in Indian. Kinda weirdly want to see a picture of it…but I understand why you didn’t post one. Loved the idea of using said member for valuing items on your trip. “How many fingers worth is that statue!?” It sounds like you made the most of your adventure–and your friendships over the years. We should all be so blessed.
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It was so disgusting and messy, not to mention leaking blood all over my keyboard. I’m absolutely delighted it’s gone now and I have zero desire to revisit the photos. [So yuck!]
Although, it did make me remember my friend Esther, who said that she and her colleagues noticed the only males in their organization were in the top positions of authority. “What do they have that we don’t?” they asked themselves.
The answer was obvious. So they went out and purchased a rubber novelty, which we’ll call “Wilbur.” Instant equality. Soon none of them went to a meeting or made a presentation without her Wilbur. In fact, now all life-decisions begin with one simple question. Would someone with a Wilbur…
-appear in public wearing a mini-skirt?
-go back to using hair rollers EVERY DAY before work?
-Sit around selling each other Tupperware or makeup for 5-percent commission?
So yeah. Maybe my Wilbur-ectomy wasn’t such a good idea?
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Awwwh, this was the most enjoyable ‚Visit India with a Guide’ visual tour, thank you so much. I loved best your new paying system…. And I too wd like to see a ‚member on finger‘ pic, just because it was YOU – I‘m sure even ‚that‘ was special. And I still am totally happy when I find the time and leisure to visit you and your always ‚fabulous‘ tales. I know I‘m always in for a great moment of entertainment, a laugh or/and the occasional tear.
Thank you for having ‚entered‘ my group of virtual friends. And BRAVO to the three of you who met up ‚then‘ and continued to have this awesome friendship up to now. What a priceless gift to treasure.
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Thanks for those kind words. But as for showing the photo? Maybe look at my response to Kirizar (above)?
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Amazing… again. Tks for the (barbed – no pun intended) early morning laugh 👏🏻
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When you travel with long-time friends, you always have a good time. The only thing constant is change, so I’m not surprised that India has gone through some changes since you have been there last. But what doesn’t change is your enduring friendship.
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It’s kind of embarrassing actually. The three of us get in the same room, and 5 decades of being grownups disappears instantly.
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Being a grown-up is over rated anyway!! The important thing is that you have fun!
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I’m v jealous. One day..
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India travel is tricky if you don’t have an insider with you. So I hope you make it one of these days, but even more I hope you have a close friend who is from India and can show you the ropes. Bonus points if they come from an enormous family who, I’m convinced, contain every type of contact and skillset imaginable, and can’t wait to put them at our disposal.
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Still don’t and won’t have a smartphone, so India’s out for me, ha ha! Unless I could pay for everything with sweeties…!!
This was fascinating to read; it seems kind of sad how the big corporations take over, though! You look happy and healthy, that’s the main thing (though I am most intrigued by this finger growth!!) x
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Well the finger (aside from becoming a unit of currency) really had to go. It was bleeding all over my keyboard. And of course, as I said to Kirizar above, I should have considered the Wilbur aspect.
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What an amazing and fascinating take on changes in India, along with a great travelogue. You all looked like you were having such good fun!
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We had SO much fun! We’re already planning the next trip.
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Where will that take you? How long are your trips? The flight there must be a looooong one.
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Not going to lie, the flights are not pleasant. I had a pair of 7-hr flights with a layover in Bahrain. But what really makes them difficult is the uncertainty about delays, long waits at security and immigration, baggage issues, and the constant fear that I’m the only one aboard with a facemask, and everyone else is spewing some new Covid variant I’m not vaccinated against. Still, when I arrive, I can eat ALL the parathas.
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Well, that makes it all worthwhile, not to mention meeting up with your friends. Keep it up as long as you can handle it physically and mentally!
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I haven’t been anywhere fun the last couple of years so I haven’t noticed any post covid changes! You’re a brave lady!
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Not even a little brave. But it’s been three years and I just couldn’t wait, even if I was the ONLY one on the plane wearing a facemask. And it actually went pretty well, at least until we were in the taxi heading back to the airport, and the taxi driver was doing his best to cough up a spare internal organ. “Don’t worry,” he wheezed. “I’m a Reiki master, and I’m healing myself.” Janine and I looked at each other and mouthed, “We’re doomed.”
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🤣🤣🤣
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Reblogged and commented: “As always, Barb is spot on with her account of (South) India. I am one of those who asked for “Selfie madam?” this year and she agreed although I didn’t have a child in tow to meet her requirement of “we only pose with children”. But to compensate, my child will be visiting her at her caisteal to get that “selfie” next week. You can leave South India, Barb, but South India will track you down and get that selfie.”
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Well, we’ll at least have to take a selfie for her mom! (I wonder if I could get her to dress up in a kilt?)
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I hope you would !
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I feel such a range of emotions after reading this. The first and abiding one is sheer delight at the humorous account and the beautiful pictures. “Is that more than nineteen?” is still making me smile. There’s the intrigue, suspense, mild horror and amazement at your own ‘Wilbur’ experience. There’s awe at the ancient buildings and surprise at the speed at which India is developing into a modern, technological country. I know it’s better for the inhabitants, but I’m just a little sad that advancements mean the inclusion of McDonalds and Starbucks, etc. Finally there’s hope – that a new travel book is on its way. ♥♥
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Thanks so much for all those kind thoughts! (And yes, Jaya and Janine are wondering when we’re going to see that next book…)
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Yay! 🙂
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Love, love this post! You must have been shocked at the differences after only three years. Thank God for TP!
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Somehow I missed this. Thanks for the fantastic update. I’ve not been in India since about 2003, and I doubt whether I’ll ever return now. Climate change, for one. There was evedicne of internet cafes everywhere then, and I’d heard they were doing really great online everything, but your experiences show it really is working that way. But… how are old people managing?
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I need to go back…
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All the changes sound pretty positive, Barb. I must talk to my friend Sumi about what she thinks, although she has lived in the UK for many years now. I am with you on the energy levels and the days getting longer (or my battery running out earlier than it did before). Thanks for sharing your trio’s wonderful adventure.
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I am come from Bali island. Never been come to this country. But thank you a lot for sharing information about india. So, now i know a bit
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